Second marriage...


Second marriage...

Well known comedian Amanullah's (late) interview was going on in a very pleasant atmosphere. Suddenly the host asked in his typical manner how many marriages he had and how many children he had. This question made the atmosphere mournful. Amanullah was very sad and said that man should never remarry. If you want to get remarried, go to Arabia, and get married there. But our system does not allow that. You keep regretting remarrying. If anyone doesn't believe, try it.

It is a bitter truth that our society does not accept second marriage, which has three major disadvantages.1. The number of unmarried girls in our country is increasing day by day.

According to a UNICEF report, more than 10 million girls (twenty to thirty-five years) of marriageable age are waiting to get married in Pakistan. About one million of them have reached the age of marriage. It is noteworthy that 75% of the girls waiting for marriage are educated.

2. The number of widows in the beloved homeland is increasing with the passage of time.
There are about 6 million single widows between the ages of 30 and 45. This means that these are widows whose second marriage is possible, for whom there is no strong governmental and non-governmental system in the country to provide for them.

3. The rate of divorced girls / women is gradually increasing.
The divorce rate in the beloved homeland is also on the rise. According to a conservative estimate, the divorce rate in the homeland was 13% in 1970, which has now risen to more than 60%. Some believe that one of the reasons for the increase in divorce is the Family Courts Act 2015. Under section 6, the process of khula has been made easier. Compared to the past, 2018 saw a significant increase in the divorce rate. In 2018, 15,800 divorce cases were filed in the Family Courts of Lahore alone.

The above situation demands that we correct ourselves before the water passes through our heads. Otherwise, our defeated family system will collapse. So we need to promote second marriage. Married girls should be generous while feeling the pain of girls like them. The one who comes should also show moderation, be an ideal companion so that others may also be encouraged and good tradition may be promoted, not people should touch their ears when they see the outcome of second marriage.

Relationships should be facilitated by eliminating or minimizing excessive demands. Relationships should be established in a timely manner. Delays due to education and other unnecessary reasons should be avoided.
The curse of dowry should be eradicated in the beloved homeland. In this regard, both the government and the people have a role to play. Just as we think a drug addict is bad, try to understand the dowry taker and the giver. Otherwise such individuals / families should be socially excluded.

If you are a boy, try to feel the pain that arises in the hearts of parents of unmarried, aging girls.
One last thing, parents must make their son a doctor, a pilot, but also a good husband. And mothers should train their daughters so that they can become a good wife / daughter-in-law / mother-in-law. To help reduce the divorce rate in society.

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